It’s widely said that children are like little sponges, soaking up everything they hear and see. They absorb everything and then repeat/copy what they’ve heard or seen at the most surprising (and often inappropriately funny) times! I try to be careful what my children see and hear, but the biggest influence that I expose them to is possibly the worst influence of all sometimes – ME!
I shouldn’t be surprised when B1 comes out with the things he does! Recently he walked into the room where I was, paused, and said “Now what’s going on here?” – something that I regularly say to my kids (but hadn’t realised before then how often I say it!).
I’ve seen him …
– flop back into his chair whilst breathing out with a loud sigh (who does that, really?!),
– chatter on the phone to an imaginary person and roll his eyes,
– stop and stand with his hands on his hips,
– say “no, I’m too busy”… (when asked for a cuddle),
– when I say “I’ve just got to do this”, he has replied with “quickly mummy, do it quickly!”
– he’ll run around the house saying “we’re late, quick mum, we’re late”
OH MY GOSH! Is THIS what I’m teaching my children????!!!!!
There are also many positive things that I’ve seen too (that he MUST have learnt from me!):
– when we thank B1 for things, he says “pleasure” (as in, “its been my pleasure” – so cute!)
– he says Grace before his meals & likes to pray before bedtime
– he’ll come up and put his arm around me and says “I love you” for no reason
– when we’re out in public, he is normally extremely good at listening and following instructions
– he is helpful, grabbing things for people or cleaning up after himself
– B1 comforts B2 with words and patting, when B2 is crying
I love seeing my boys grow and develop so much, and especially seeing their individual personalities coming out! Whilst it is a bit scary to see some of my negative traits wear off onto the boys, it challenges me to always be willing to grow and learn myself. I should not be focused on the negative, or worry about this, but focus on the positives. There is so much scope for teaching my boys, for laughing and learning together. I just have to keep in mind how much influence I have. I am reminded of the line from the Spiderman movie, “With great power comes great responsibility”.
Which trait would you most or least like to pass onto your children?