B1, my new 3yo, walked into our bedroom this morning. My husband and I greeted him with “Happy Birthday” and lots of cuddles. He was very excited. We had been talking with him about this birthday coming for a few weeks.
As the initial excitement wore down, we proceeded to ask him how old he was.
[B1] “2”.
[Us] No, It’s your birthday. Remember you’re older now. What comes after 2?
B1 thinks about it
[Us] You were 1, then 2, what comes next?
[B1] I’m still 2
[Us] No, You were 1, then 2, now you’re 3!
[B1] But I don’t have angel wings!
We laughed. Huh?!
[Us] You don’t get angel wings. You were 1, then 2, and now you’ve had a birthday you are 3!
[B1] but I’m still this tall… (with a very confused face)
At this point we laughed again. Oh dear…
I thought to myself – I suppose it is a bit of an abstract concept. Growing a little each day and then all of a sudden changing numbers when they have not much concept of time yet (EVERYTHING for my son is “just 2 more minutes”!). I quietly decided that I would continue to try to explain if the ability arose to easily do so, but mostly let it slide. So the conversation continued….
[B1] Happy Birthday daddy!
[Daddy] It’s not my birthday, it’s your birthday!
And then
[B1] My birthday’s not in here (points to our bedroom), it’s down there (points to the loungeroom)
And then another half hour passes
[B1] Is it my birthday now?
[Me] Yes darlings, it’s your birthday all day!
… it could be a LONG day !!!